Don’t be fooled – This isn’t a flattering post.
I’ve been to my fair share of shows. I’ve met more than my fair share of band members.
The first time I met this dude, he asked me if I was okay. I was taking photos at his show and there was an incident while in the pit.
The second time he was off his face trying to ply me with alcohol, but still he was nice enough. Funny how someone’s behaviour can be reserved when their label is looking.
The third time he was pretty hammered and being a dude hitting on girls who would readily sleep with him. This I might add happened DURING the set.
But the last two times I have seen him, he has gone from someone I had time for, to someone who is just a hot mess and just needs a wide berth from the train wreck that they have turned into.
I don’t care how famous you are, if you are on a stage performing, you are performing for your fans – not some girl you have/are going to fuck. It’s seedy and just disrespectful to the people who came to watch you play.
In a nutshell – You look like an unprofessional horny little prick and it is NOT attractive.
And it’s not just while you are performing. It shows in the photographs that are taken too and those are what everyone these days walk away with from their experience and it reminds them of your behaviour.
Don’t get me wrong – I know what band dudes are like. They fuck. They laugh about it with their mates. They move on to the next city and do it all again. And no – I am not saying that EVERY band member is like this. But there are a hell of a lot that are.
The moral of the story – If you are in a band, don’t be THAT guy. It just leaves people with a sour taste in their mouth and it will lose you fans.